Your wife is an adult human being...

This one is for the straight guys specifically.

Your wife or girlfriend is an adult human being fully capable of making big girl decisions. Maybe not prepping is one of her decisions. It's one I'd hate but if you want to be with her your just going to have to work around it and respect her agency.

But this isn't about that. This is about those of you who share your life with a woman that sees what you see and worries about what you worry about; she preps.

Treat her like a doggone adult. She may have some pretty bad info based on a life time of being marginalized and held as inherently less capable. YOU may have some pretty bad info based on a life time of marginalizing women and holding them as inherently less capable.

I have news for you: some of the scariest and most capable people I have known in life have been women. Screw with them at your peril.

Here's some problems with solutions:

1) Women have fitness regimens marketed to them that are not good for anything other than being an ineffectual twig. This is Zumba. It's better than not working out I guess, but what she should be doing is the same thing that you should be doing: training for increased physical capacity. These are some capable women. I leave you to decide which ones you would rather have beside you. Notice that they aren't all bulgy and rippling with muscle. They look like healthy young women because they are.  Crossfit,Starting Strength, 70s Big; all fine resources for learning more about increasing your ability to do work.

2)Women are generally told they want a snubbie or a pocket gun. That's the Zumba of shooting my friends. My pistol of a choice is a Glock 22. It has the characteristics that I am looking for in a gun: semi auto, a nice fat round, high capacity and RELIABLE. I believe that I need all of those things in a primary weapon. Why is my wife any different? She deserves a weapon that has all of the traits I just listed.

3) When a woman is given her 380 pocket pistol she goes to the range once a year with you while you take pistol combat courses. Seriously... WTF. She needs training just as much as you do. If she DOES have a worthwhile weapon (and she should) then she needs to know how to use it. Unless you happen to be a weapons instructor you probably need to get her to a few classes with you.

Does she have some interest in the topic but then her eyes glaze over once you start going on? Dude, you may be talking down to her. No one likes that. Give her information but don't spoon feed it to her likes she's simple; she's not. Unless she is, but that's different. My wife would have put a knife in me if I handed her a pink Taurus 380. Her favorite round is to shoot is .357. Some women want the pink guns and fine... whatever. At least they are becoming more capable. More than you imagine consider the pink pocket gun condescending at best.

Just a few thoughts. If your partner is your partner then you need to be able to trust them with your life. Even if she is interested she may have some learned helplessness to overcome. She's capable of being more than a dependent. Give her some room to grow and watch her shine.

I'm out.
Willy FTE